13 Warning Signs To Detect On The Very First Dates!
So, your date was quite nice, but you need to be sure that are they right for you? Here are some of the signs based on which you can put your conclusion!
The first date always goes with some judgement and some anxiety. But, with people who generally have bad first dates and perfect successive dates will have some different opinion. They won’t be deciding based on the first date whether they should move on in the relationship or not. [ Read: 12 Best Ways To Avoid The First Impression Disaster!
There may be thousands of reasons why your date wasn’t able to make it on the first date, be it some of the tough times going in their lives, or being stressed out at the work place. Before passing away the verdict, one should always take some time to decide whether to precede something or drop it. It definitely takes a couple of dates to come to a conclusion whether you connect with each other or not. However, some of the red flags might be on your way, so don’t you ignore them. You may not be able to grab it all on the first date, but you could jot down their pattern in your mind in the upcoming dates.
Here is a list of 13 warning signs to watch out for! Hope you’re not dating the one who’s just not your cup of tea!
1. Rude behaviour!
If your date is being rude to you or to the people around you, then it’s definitely not a good sign. You may give them some chances before just calling it off. It may be possible that they were unintentionally rude to you for the first time. You don’t have to put up with any insult. You have the call to dismiss everything right at the moment and just walk away! [ Read: 5 Ways To Deal With A Rude Boyfriend ]
2. Low self respect!
It is somehow the total opposite of the above point, but it gets super annoying when it comes your way. There are a few people who always talk about themselves as if they are not in good position and it makes you feel sorry about them. They behave as if they are some victims who are always in low position. If you continue to be with people like them, then you will end up trying to make them feel better about themselves all the time!
3. Over sharing!
There is no point of sharing too intimate details with the person you are dating on the very first date. You should take some things slow to enjoy it at an ease. Sharing something too intimate too soon is not at all a healthy dating behaviour. Some things should be preserved for some future conversations also. [ Read: MATE, Never Discuss These 8 Things On Your First DATE ]
4. Constantly talking about their exes!
If you talk about your ex on the first date, then it’s fine but not for more than a minute or two. Dragging about them is of no good use and time. If someone is blabbering constantly about their ex, then you can guess that they are still not over them.
5. Too emotionally dependent!
It’s good to conclude whether somebody is into you and you are into them. But, when this exceeds over some level which is not acceptable for you, then you should rethink about taking the relation forward. Constantly messaging you and calling you, picking out of nowhere fights just to grab your attention will keep you annoyed all the time. Either discuss it with your date or just call it off! [ Read: 8 body language signs during first dates ]
6. ” I’ve not technically broken up with my boyfriend/girlfriend ”
Take a note of the word ”technically”. They should make a point clear whether they have technically broken off or not. If you notice this at any time of the date, then you could be sure that they are not ready to break up now, but they still want to give it a try with you.
7. No attention to their appearance!
When you go out for a date, you make sure that you look presentable and good. You obviously will wear something neat and tidy to look good. But, if you notice that your date doesn’t care about how they look even on the first date, and then take it as a huge red flag! [ Read: 12 ‘Must Know’ Dating Rules For Classy Men And Women ]
There are some people who just know how to brag about their accomplishments. Telling this is quite good when you share your accomplishments but if your conversations always revolves around this topic, then it’s not a healthy sign!
9. Always low!
It might be mistaken for low self esteem, but the only difference is that your date always wants you to help her in anything they want. The red flags signs include a range of asking for money, or always asking you to take them out from a bad situation. This will keep you in distress in future. You should take a wise decision and just walk away. [ Read: Simple Dating Tips That Will Actually Work For You ]
10. Always want to be the centre of attention
Some people only exist to hear their own voice! They just don’t care what other say or what views other holds. It’s always ”me, me and me” for them. You could not even think of interrupting when they are talking to you.
11. People whose lives seem so interesting!
There are people whose lives may seem so much interesting. But can you believe a person whose income is not too dreamy and he takes around 6 tours abroad in one year. This is just plain delusional. You should definitely quit before you get ahead! [ Read: 10 Dating Love Lessons 80’S Teen Movie Can Teach You ]
12. Treats their phone as their first love!
This gets weird when your date is busier with their phone as much as they are interested in talking to you. Nobody wishes to be in a relationship with somebody who is so badly connected with their phone.
13. Too touchy!
When it comes to touching, then both the parties should give their consent. Only on the basis of one party it can’t go ahead. It usually starts with the hands and then they can take it further if they want to. But, if your date already has their hands on you, then they probably want to take the relationship at a pace you are not comfortable with.
Make a decent move after considering all the signs. We definitely don’t want you to regret as the relationship progresses!