12 Tips to Keep in Mind While Dating Your Boss
You cannot take your eyes off him… every time he talks to you, you go weak in the knees… his charm just puts you in a dreamland; if this is the effect your boss has for you, worry not because you are not the first one.
Many of us crush on our bosses and actually do get romantically involved with them. It is tough not to, because you are with him all the day and interacting with him almost throughout the day. And the fact that he’s interested in you too will just put you on the seventh heaven! However, dating your boss is quite tricky and you need to be prepared for the consequences as well as know your boundaries. [ Read: Office Romance – Pros and Cons ]
So here are tips that you help you while you are dating your boss-
- Work in not your Romance Pad
Always remember that your office is out of bounds – do not show any sort of affection when you are present at your work place. Keep it professional and if your boss thinks otherwise make it clear that you won’t mix business and pleasure! [ Read: 15 Ways To Deal With The Workaholic Boyfriend! ]
- You are an equal
You are an employee at work, but outside office you are a like any other person i.e. you and he stand at the same level as him– neither any superiority nor hierarchy. So don’t feel obliged because he is your boss. Treat it like a regular relationship and make sure he does the same.
- Office Gossip
Be prepared to hear all sorts of nasty stories about you and your relationship. Co-workers don’t miss an opportunity to discuss such juicy gossip. Also, remember that you will be the one under the axe, not your boss because that’s the sad rule of the world. So just focus on your work and your relationship. [ Read: 12 Things That Make You A Stalker ]
The green devil is going to be on your back constantly so don’t be moved by all the negativity. People will get jealous that you were the one ‘picked’ by your boss. Firstly, remember that this relationship is your choice and your peers are definitely going to judge you. However, it is your life so live it the way you want!
- Decide your Limits
Don’t feel compelled! Just because he is your boss, you don’t have to just follow al his orders. If you are not comfortable going out for dinners frequently, don’t do it; or if you feel that the relationship is moving too fast and you cannot handle it; or if you are not comfortable with the idea of ‘business trips’ together, don’t take them- whatever the issue, let your voice be heard. [ Read: 7 Ways To Make A Man Understand You Completely ]
- Post Break-Up Plan
Dating your boss is probably the most risky relationship you’ve gotten into! Have a proper plan about the future – chalk down what are your options if this doesn’t work out. If you have sensed that the relationship has reached a dead-end and you won’t be comfortable reporting to him, start applying for other jobs, or if you think your career is not going to be affected by this, make a pact with him that despite ending all ties, your work relationship remains intact!
- Be Diligent
If the relationship is a secret, you have to be very diligent because once someone catches you with him, you will not be spared. So always be careful about where you meet him, how you treat him in office, don’t sweet talk on office chat or send naughty messages because anyone may just happen to see all of this! [ Read: 13 Simple Ways To Avoid Falling In Love With The Wrong One! ]
- Personal Impression
Keep in mind that everyone will think lowly about you and will not take respond well to you once they know that you are involved with your boss. Don’t try to give any explanations because all those efforts will go down in vain. Just be strong during this phase because this too shall pass!
Try to avoid any sort of Public Display of Affection (PDA). Sure, you are basking in the glory of your romance and it will be hard to avoid that cute little eye contact or giggle at some common joke or give a flying kiss; but do not share all this joy in public, especially if you are keeping the relationship under covers. [ Read: 10 Signs That You Are Lovesick And Ways To Get Out Of It ]
- Have a Back Bone
Be confident. Don’t be shy to stand up for what you want. Don’t change your personality and become timid in front of the man, just because he is your boss for eight hours in the day. Whether it is about making the bed in the morning or about ethics, always stand up for yourself.
- Co-worker Rivalry
Once your co-workers know about your relationship, they are going to attack you in any way they can. The opportunists will start using your relationship against you, trying to blackmail you of sorts or tattle tale other seniors in the company – it is a bad world out there. Just make sure you give your best at work because the only fingers that will be pointed are at you. [ Read: Double Date with other couples – Pros and Cons ]
- Make it official
As soon as you and your boss know that this relationship has potential, go public! Once you have made it official, all the rivalry, gossip and apprehensions will go away and you will start leading a more relieved and life!
Office romances will always get tough – everyone is just going to assume you are with your boss to get ahead in work. However, you need take a call whether this relationship is worth all this trouble. If yes, follow the advice given above and start looking for a job change– whether things work out or not, this job change will be a win-win situation.