Top Reason Why Men Leave The Women They Love: Emotional Burden


Top Reason Why Men Leave The Women They Love

You’re here because you want to know the reason why he left your or could leave you. There could be more than one reason why he decided or is planning to walk away from you and the relationship. I would list one of those many reasons that might cause you to loose him. It doesn’t really matter how long you’ve been together, if you’re not happy with each-other and are sure that the relationship isn’t going to get any better, you do what’s best for your mental stability and stop making efforts and let go of them for good. You might still be in love with them, but not enough to see a future with them. After-all love is not a single word with one fixed meaning, it is a combinations of feelings, emotions, needs, desire, stability and much more. All those join together to provide comfort, trust, loyalty, happiness and a sense of belonging. This matters a lot when it comes to an relationship. Men leave when they no longer are able to see why they should stay.

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An Emotional Burden

He will walk away when the relationship feels more like an emotional burden. When this emotional baggage get’s heavier and heavier he will start loosing the desire to stay. I am a man and I could say for sure that many of us are “Emotional Gold Diggers”. We give way more importance to emotions, but it becomes a burden when we have to carry a lot of those same emotions. Emotional labour could also erode away relationships. When you are an emotional burden for him it causes a lot of difficulty, worry, or hard work for him. And if it get’s overwhelming he might simple leave, rather than carrying the weight.

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Don’t make him feel frustrated, do not let your own emotional turmoil wear him off. Because it will wear him off, if it is the only thing he is getting out of the relationship. Yes it is true, when in a relationship you are meant to share what troubles you, what you want and such. But that shouldn’t be the only talk in the relationship. The relationship is not just about you, it’s not just about him either, it’s about you both. You can not try to dominate or force your thoughts nor try to keep the conversation one sided. When you are constantly obsessing about yourself and what you want it will make him loose interest in you. He will feel burdened when you make it sound like it’s his duty to make your dreams come true. You can not expect him to be the soul source of all that you want in life, he can hep you for sure. But he shouldn’t feel like it’s his purpose to do that for you. Don’t make him feel like he has a deadline to provide you with all that you want.

How Not To Be An Emotional Burden

Be your own source of happiness, do not let it collapse into emotionally co-dependent traps by trying to extract happiness from each other or from the relationship, rather than finding it within yourself. It could be toxic,  too much toxic for him to handle, for him to hold on, for him to stay strong in the relationship. Don’t let it go to that stage. Don’t let him feel that he is responsible to provide you with never ending happiness. Great relationship grows out of two people who have their own lives and their own happiness, not from those who are a hundred percent dependent of their partner as a source of their happiness.

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He probably has plenty of his own issues without you adding to them. Do not ask him to bear the complete weight of your unhappiness, he will share it but don’t force him to carry it all on his own. If he feels like the relationship is more of a burden than a joy in his life, it could make him walk away from the relationship, even if he loves you. So, know your limits on what is okay and what is not okay to ask from him in the name of love. If you make him tired of taking responsibility for your emotional state, he will leave when it becomes too much for him to handle on his own.

Author Manoj