MATE, Never Discuss these 8 Things on Your First DATE
First dates are important beginnings to a possible relationship between two people. First dates can be nervous, awkward, exciting as well as boring. Some people get so nervous on their first dates that they start mouthing inappropriate things and lose a chance to get asked out again. As they say, first impressions are last impressions. Well it might not be completely true, but your second date surely depends on how well your first date went.
There are certain things one must avoid talking about on their first dates, as it can bring up unpleasantness or awkwardness if your date is not on the same page as you are.
- Do not suggest a weekend getaway
A weekend getaway is not on the cards as yet. Therefore, don’t make a fool of yourself by asking your date for a weekend getaway on the first date itself. It might work only if you are extremely lucky or your date really likes you. Otherwise, it might be taken up as hasty behavior. [ Check out: Do You Love Him, But You Are Not Sure If He Really Loves You Back?
- Don’t say “I love you”
No matter how much you like your date, hold your horses. It is not the time yet, to confess all your feelings. Remember Ted Mosby and Robin Scherbatsky’s first date, where he said the three words on the very first date. It can take your date by surprise and she or he might also term you as “weirdo”.
- Don’t talk about your past relationships
Try to avoid talks about your past bfs / gfs. If you talk too much about your ex partner, you might be perceived as still hung over your last relationship. And frankly, nobody wants to be someone’s rebound. Your first date will most definitely excuse themselves from your talks.
- Don’t talk about marriage
Talking too much about marriage and kids, might freak out your date. This is just the first date, you both are getting to just know each other. Marriage, kids and family is long long way ahead. Even if you aren’t suggesting that you want to marry your date, he or she might take it as you being a marriage maniac. They might think that they won’t have enough time to know you before you might propose marriage to them. [ Also read: The 6 Things Guys Love Most About Women ]
- Don’t ask awkward questions
Steer clear of awkward questions. Some questions can be extremely personal, whereas some can be just very irritating. Asking too much about your date’s past relationships, their income and savings, their personal life can be a little too much. Instead ask them about their hobbies, passions, dreams. Their favorites, be it dishes, actors, movies, pass time activities and so on.
- Don’t discuss money
Its best to not discuss how cheap or how expensive the meals of the restaurant are. It might seem a little cheesy. Don’t talk about how many dollars you have in your pocket and how much is your balance in the bank accounts. Try avoiding talks about their salary or about how much you can splurge. It might be taken as incessant bragging. And no one likes brag!
- Don’t talk about your weird habits
Sometimes people talk about their weird habits on their first dates. Be it snoring in the nights, be it that they are scared of dogs, that they talk in their sleep. Some people go ahead and say even weird things that they are often doing. Avoid telling such things, because you don’t want them to think of you as goofy on the first date itself and spoil your impression.
- Don’t talk about your family too much
If you talk too much of your family, your mom, your sister or your father, your date perceives you as dependent. They might think that your whole world revolves around your family only and you have no independence and thought process of your own. No one wants to hear what their date’s mom says to them on their first date. So avoid the family talk and save it until, you actually introduce your date to them or just a few meetings before that. [ Read here: 10 Ways To Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special ]
What are some talks that might irk you on a first date? Share with us in the comments section.