How To Get A Man Who Really Loves You
Well, well, well. Look who’s here. You are here to know how to get a guy high on love with you, aren’t you? Worry no more, Manoj is here. I am a relationship expert (self-proclaimed) and today i’ll help you to pick the right man.
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Before getting a man who really loves you, you should have a clear cut picture of the kind of man who will suit you. Some might want a gentleman while some would go for a player. In this article i’ll let you know how to check if he is a gentleman.
He Will Listen
The right guy listens to you, properly and will be very open to feedback. Check if he is paying attention to what you are saying, even if it’s a topic he hates nor has any idea about. If he cares about what you have to say, regardless of the topic, regardless of his mood, regardless of your tone, then he is the one, isn’t he? No, just listening alone won’t do. There should be proper feedback, he should respond back to what he have listened from you.
He Accepts Who You Are
He will know that you are unique, he will know he can’t mold a different person out of you. He will accept the fact that you’ll perceive things very differently than how he does. And he will be completely okay with that. He will not become defensive or threatened by your differences. He will never try to change you into someone else. He will acknowledge you for the person you are and will appreciate you for not acting up as a different entity to please him.
He makes you laugh
Sounds so simple, but is too difficult to get a hold of. How many men in your life was able to bring out your genuine, carefree laughter? And how many of them were willing to get on a relationship with you? If he can inspire one of those uncontrollable laughing fits, do not let go of him. A relationship with good sense of humour will make sure you don’t get bored of the relationship. Plus a guy who makes fun of everything won’t take your mistakes and all too seriously.
What Else?
What else? There’s more actually. I’ll list them all shortly, also you can read some from my other article Things a Man Will Do ONLY if He Really Loves You.
He fits into your life and you will be comfortable in his. He will care about the people you love and would make efforts to make them like him. He will make sacrifices for you, not because you ask, but because he cares. He won’t be able to help himself from being affectionate towards you. His day will not be complete unless he has kissed you once. He will be thoughtful and romantic and will do anything he can do to make you feel better. He will have eyes only for you and won’t cheat on you with anyone else under any condition. And above all, he will make you feel relaxed. Wherever you are, if you are with him you will feel the warmth and comfort of being home.
If your man trusts you and is trustworthy himself, what else do you want to keep the relationship strong? Trust is something that is the base of a relationship, and without it no relationship can survive. You could easily tell if he is the gentleman you were looking for by looking at the restrictions he insists on the relationship. There will be none, he will not restrict you for anything. He will never make you feel insecure and un-loved because of his restrictions. If he does not restrict you to do anything and everything, then he is the one! Marry him! If he loves your flaws, he will love every bit of you. If your man loves your flaws, then never let him leave your side.
You know his love for you is real if you hear him complementing very often. A guy would never fail to make a lady feel appreciated if he is genuinely in love with her. He will compliment you without you asking for it, he will compliment when you are least expecting it. He will never fail to do so. He will compromise whenever he has to just to keep you happy and see a smile on your face. Men compromising in a relationship is not something you could hear often, so if you see him compromising you are lucky to call him as yours. You will always be a part of his priority list, you will be top on the list. And his love for you will be unconditional, no matter what. Caring, charming, thoughtful, mature, supportive, optimistic and reliable are few more things you would get from him, if he is the one and you are the one for him.
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How To Get A Man Who Really Loves You
Now back to our article, how to find true love. Just because the whole world seems to obsess about having a lover doesn’t mean you should find one right now. If it takes time, even though you are putting effort, let it be. There should be some reason why you can’t seem to find a prince charming. Maybe you are not a princess, a fairy tale ending might not what suits you. To know who could love you truly, you should love yourself. When you love yourself, you will have a better understanding of what to expect out of a relationship. You will know your flaws and will know your strength. This will help you know what sort of man could balance the relationship with you.
Have Hope
Do not, I repeat, do not loose hope. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you have to be hopeful at all times. Without it, you won’t be motivated enough to play your part. You need to make yourself presentable. He might be interested in you as much as you are interested in him. But he may not express his feelings, fearing that it might drift him apart from you. And if you don’t have hope, you will not be able to make efforts. And by the time you realize that, it will be too long.
Be Yourself
If you want him to love you, the real you, then you have to be yourself. If you are pretending to be different from your true self when trying to make a guy like you, you might succeed in making him fall for you. But he won’t stay with you for much longer. Once he realize that you are not the women he fell in love with, he would want out from the relationship. No matter how good an actress you are, you would not be able to keep the facade up for long. And when you try to switch between characters he’ll get tired of trying to figure out who you really are and would eventually give up. If you want him to really love you and if you want the relationship with him to last, be yourself right from the start.
Appearance Matters?
Well, it doesn’t matter for some, but like you who is looking for the prince charming, some men too want their princess to look presentable. Be aware of what you are wearing, whether or not you got your makeup on etc. Cause many men out here do give a lot of importance for appearance. So you might want to look sexy for the man you want to fall in love with you. Not all though, some will be happy to be yours, as long as you are confident, comfortable, and feel good about yourself.
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Let him talk too
You got to listen, when you have to listen. Let him talk, you should let him talk. There’s no way you could get a guy who would really love you when you don’t let him talk to you. It is really important that you listen. Don’t just talk. You might be tempted to talk about anything and everything when you have a crush on him, but don’t cut him of when he is talking. It is a big mistake that can easily cost you getting the man of your dreams.
Confidence is key
Yes, confidence is the key in getting him to love you for real. Let him know that you love yourself, despite the shortcomings. Liking yourself makes it easy for him to like you too. No man can resist a woman who is confident that she is worthy of being loved. The confidence in you will make you approach him and he will appreciate that.
Don’t be someone who always wants something from him
To get a man to love you for real, you should give, and not just take. Let him know that you are interested in him for his love and not his money. Let him know that you won’t be a girl who would rely on him for each and everything. Let him see that you are the kind of girl who could help him face the wold, if he ever have to face it.
Get to know him
You can’t get a guy who loves you for real when you don’t know a thing about him. Just knowing a thing about him won’t do, you got to know more than one. Take opportunities to get involved in things he does. Live his life, know his likes and dislikes, when he sees you making effort in learning about his life he will make you a part of that life.
Patience will definitely pay off
This one quality can do wonders, and by wonder I mean this would get a guy to love you for real. It always pays to be patient, give him space. Respect his inability to open up right away if he keeps dragging. Don’t force him to submitting to a relationship with you, he might submit. But he will not be the one who loves you truly.
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Being too possessive
Are you that women who is possessive of a man before he even admits his love to them? If yes wave goodbye to the idea of getting a man who really loves you. He don’t need you protecting him from other women, especially when you both haven’t expressed your feelings. If you are the one for him, he will definitely fall in love with you. If you are the who is possessive, he will definitely not enter into that toxic relationship with you. A possessive or controlling relationship partner would never find herself in a relationship with a guy who loves her for real.
Are you a good person?
Good morals are a necessity in convincing a man to love you. Honesty, Self-discipline, Loyalty, Trust, Communication are few of the core values that are must for a guy to surrender in love with you. Morals are the compass for your relationship. Stop using this compass and you will definitely be lost very soon. Respect each other, support each other and trust him the same way you want him to trust you. Nobody wants to get involved with someone who can’t be trusted. Make sure to have respect for yourself and your values, it in-turn will help you figure out if this is the guy who will respect you back.
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More Tips
If he sends you those random “I miss you” text more than “I love you” text means he loves you. So do the same. Don’t just tell a guy that you love him, when he is not near tell him that miss his presence. That will make him realize you are true to him. And he will be true to you. Don’t worry if you find him being more distant than usual after you expressed your love for him. He might be just confused about his feelings for you and would like to be on his own to figure it out. If he says yes immediately, he probably was in deep love with you nor he is just faking his love to get laid. If he is really in love with you, he would pull away from you for a while to figure out how to make you comfortable and secure as soon you both enter into a relationship.
If your guy is asking your opinion about an important decision that he needs to make, it’s a clear cut sign that he is in love with you and don’t want anything done without knowing your opinion first. He will not just asks your opinion about his important decisions but will also make plans for your future. Even when him being with you is not sure, he will make sure that you get to live a proper future. He will go out of his way for you, he won’t let you face any struggles alone. He will try his best to solve any issues before it could reach you. Men don’t go out of their way to help someone where they might end up in trouble fr helping unless they really care and love for the person who they are helping.
If he is a guy who is really in love with you, he will never forget the little things. Do you have an exam day after tomorrow? He will remember that. Did you forget to pay your WiFi bill? Do not worry, he would have paid it already. He won’t bail on responsibilities. He will be really interested to know how your day was and would be genuinely willing to share his with you. One thing most guys won’t do, including me is sacrificing his favorite food. Yes if he sacrifices his favorite dish because you don’t like it, he is the one for you. He is the one who is really in love with you. Marry him already.
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