How to Ask a Girl Out When You’re a Shy Guy
Are you attracted towards a girl and wish to ask her out but feel shy? Being a shy guy is not a crime. Don’t lose your confidence at the first place. And don’t think that a shy guy like you has no right to ask a girl out. Of course you do. Falling in love with someone is easy but approaching her is difficult, especially if you are a shy guy. [ Read: Can A Girl Ask A Guy Out Before He Asks Her Out? ]
Keeping your nature of being a shy person, here are a few tips that will help you while you are planning to ask the girl out for a date whom you like –
- Don’t wait for her to initiate
Girls usually don’t make the first move. If you have fallen for a girl and you wish to ask her out, then it is necessary that you’ll have to make the first move. And also, don’t wait too much, someone else might ask her out. So, garden in your courage and make a quick move. [ Read: 10 Secret Things Guys Wish Girls Knew About Guys ]
- Tell your friends and get in touch with her friends
Tell your friends about your feelings for her. Friends are usually good at giving advice on issues related to love, as they must have also experienced something similar which you might be feeling at that moment. Remember, their experience could be of great help to you. Another good option could be that you can talk to her friends and get along with them. It is quite possible that she also may start talking to you because her friends are now your friends too.
- Prepare yourself by practicing with a mirror
If you get to talk to her, what would you say? You know that this moment can come anytime that you will have to talk to her face to face. If you’re a shy guy, then you need to prepare for it in advance by standing in front of the mirror and doing some practice. Talk to yourself while standing in front of the mirror and say things that you want to say to her in the future. See your expressions, your posture, your confidence etc. and make the necessary corrections if required. It is very well said that practice makes a man perfect. So at the time when you will have to go and talk to her, you will seem like a confident man in her eyes. [ Read: Annoying Habits Any Guy Would Hate About His Girlfriend ]
- Drag her attention
Do something different and really special, something that makes you stand out of the crowd and which would make you come to her notice. This will be like the most important move that you will make towards getting her. Dragging her attention will further help you for getting in direct contact with her.
- Come to her notice
Make sure that you come to her notice. She should have at least a little bit of focus on you. She should know when you enter, when you are leaving, what you are doing, whom you are hanging out with, and who you are talking to. If you know that she is noticing you then that surely means she is also interested in talking to you. [ Read:Tips To Know That The Girl You Like Is Making A Fool Out Of You ]
- Be confident
If she is noticing you then just be confident and look confident in whatever you do. Know that whatever you are doing is right. Don’t doubt yourself about anything. And don’t fake anything. By this I mean, do no imitate other guys around you. You are different and one of a kind. Always keep smiling every time she looks at you and do not underestimate yourself. She is just a human being. Girls like guys who are confident.
- Be friends with her
You can start with passing small gestures and saying hi, hello. Then gradually start telling her about regular things about you such as about your college or your workplace. Sooner, she may become a good friend of yours. Friendship is very important for a shy guy like you. During the friendship period, you can gain confidence by talking to her and even get to know more about her. [ Read: Do Guys Like Shy Girls And Find Them Attractive? ]
- Ask her out her carefully and calmly
Now when you both know each other well, it is time that you take the next step and ask her out. Be calm and careful with your words. Express your love for her with grace. Propose to her in the best way possible. Give your 100% efforts so that she falls for you at once. Make the entire moment special for her.
What if she refuses?
You need to understand that it is not necessary that the person you like has to like you back. Don’t be disheartened. Be happy with yourself that you at least gave it a try despite being a shy guy. And moreover, you are good friends with her now. Something is always better than nothing. Don’t blame your shyness or anything for her rejection. May be you both were not meant to be together. And there are chances that someone even better is waiting for you out there. [ Read: Do You Like a Friend’s Girlfriend? ]
Don’t take things too personally. There are many more girls out there in the world. And you might be thinking that she was your one true love and you will not be able to fall for anyone else now, then trust me you are wrong. It’s just the time that is making you say this. Once you are over her, you will soon bang into another girl and you will fall for her. Just be happy, be confident and move on in life. Life doesn’t wait for anyone, so what are you waiting for?