How to Ask a Friend Out?
What if you fall in love with your own best friend? Are you finding it difficult to ask your friend out think that you might even hurt him/her and lose them as a friend too? Well first of all let me tell you that falling in love with your friend is not a wrong thing to do. In fact, you must have heard of the phrase “good friends make greats companions”. This means that a good friend can surely become a good life partner. [ Read: Find out are You More than Friends or Just Friends? ]
Now this statement depends on two main things. First, how deep your friendship is. If you are just hi hello friends then may be asking them out at such a starting level of friendship may not turn out to be fruitful. Only if you both share a great bond as friends, you can ask your friend out with confidence that at least the other person understands you well enough that you friendship will not get affected because of any reason like this one.
Second, the right way in which you ask your friend out is equally important. Even if the person is a very good friend of yours, you can just joke around and in between and ask them out. There should be a right way and a right time to propose them so that they take it in a serious way and respect your feelings for them. [ Read: 15 Quotes about Saying Goodbye to a Friend ]
Anyways, moving on to the next level, here are a few tips to tell you how to ask a friend out –
- Let the right time come
There is a right time for everything that you do. You cannot just ask a friend out all of a sudden. Likewise in this case too, you need to wait for the right time to come or may be you can plan for proposing to your friend at a particular time. Tell your friend that you want to meet them and tell them something so that you both agree to meet up at a decided place and time. [ Read: 9 Quotes about Being in Love with Your Best Friend ]
- Plan for the date well in advance
Now that you know that the time is coming for you to ask your friend out, plan for it well in advance. If you are going to propose a girl, then you can ready with some flowers, or a ring, or any other gift as girls love all these things. If you are a girl and planning to propose your male friend, you can probably think of a place where you both can have a candle light dinner. Boys usually don’t like flowers or rings as gifts.
- Decide on how, when and where you are going to propose your friend
Decide on a place where you want to meet them, as in the date, venue. Tell them that you need to share your feelings with them and want to meet them to say it so that they know you are up to something. You cannot bluntly say, “I love you”. It will be more of a shock for the other person. Tell them that there is something important you need to share with them. The moment they enter, they should have an idea that there is something special about this particular meeting. Giving them a hint well in advance is necessary. [ Read: Are You in Love with a Friend? ]
- Make the proposal
Now when everything seems al right and you that they have a clear picture about this is going to happen, ask them out. You can say things like I have start to like you and I want you to be my date, or will you be my girlfriend / boyfriend? Be clear and specific on your words. Don’t dance on the topic too much as it might confuse them. Be true about your feelings and tell them you want to have a future with them. Tell them how you feel in love with them and what makes them so special for you. This will help them have a trust on you and they will definitely think about the proposal.
- Be true and realistic
Before to decide to ask your friend out, make sure your feelings for them are true. Don’t think that it will be a pass-time relationship from your side and once you are bored with your friend, you might start ignoring them. Be sure and realistic. By being realistic I mean, make the proposal a practical one. Don’t make fake promises I will marry you as soon as you say yes, or even the way you propose, don’t make it like a dream world for them. Do not fake anything. Be who you are, no matter what. Because sooner or later they will come to know the truth and it might lead them to a heart-break. If you are an easy-going person, don’t show that you are too sophisticated, the way they like. Be yourself through out the time. [ Read: Find out are You in Love with Two People? ]
- Don’t let your friendship get affected
If your friend says yes, then good for you. And if they reject your proposal, don’t be disheartened. Just talk them out and make sure that your friendship does not get affected from both the sides. Your friendship shouldn’t fade away because for your feelings for them.
It is not necessary that your friend may have similar kind of feelings for you. And if they reject your proposal, don’t take it on your heart. Wait for the right time. Just continue being friends with them the way you always were and may be some day they might start feeling the same for you. If they don’t, that it simply means it was not meant to be and god have even better plans for you in the future.