How to Apologize and Say Sorry to a Lover
Love is a beautiful feeling and so is being in a relationship with some you love. But sometimes, there comes a time when you hurt your partner by doing something wrong. You know that you have made a mistake and your partner is hurt as well as angry with you. You cannot see them in such a state and want to make up to them. [ Read: 10 Ways to Avoid the Awkward Tension After an Argument ]
At times, the ego of both the partners tend to clash but someone has to make a move. Do not think that by saying sorry but respect is going down or your respect will be devastated if you make the initiative to say sorry. Being the first one to make the move for saying sorry can be very healthy and effective for the both of you and also beneficial for your relationship.
But if you know that it was solely your fault, then what are you waiting for. If this is the case, then do not expect your partner to come to you to make the move or say sorry. It is you who will have to do everything from the scratch till the end no matter how many hurdles you will have to face. [ Read: 10 Big Signs of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking ]
We all know that saying sorry and apologizing can be a bit of a task, so if you are confused and don’t know how to go about it, you can go through the following steps for help –
- Simply say sorry
Even if you know that a simple sorry will not work or fix the problem between you and your partner, you can give a try by initially saying sorry. By this, you might get to know the intensity of anger and frustration of your partner so that you can pan for the next step with a better idea. [ Read: 15 Quotes about Saying You are Sorry ]
- Tell your partner that you want to say sorry
Your partner might not want to listen to your “I am sorry” because it may be just another sorry for them. You know that this time you have made a really big mistake so you’re sorry won’t be acceptable. But it is important that you tell them that you really want to apologize.
- Tell them the reason why you reacted like that
If you know it’s your fault, you need to understand that it is your responsibility to explain to your lover the reason behind your actions and what made you do that. No matter what, when you are at fault to have to give answers to all their questions and give explanation behind the cause. [ Read: 11 Everyday Things to Keep Your Partner Happy ]
- Do something special
You know pretty well that you’re sorry won’t work but you can’t stop trying until and unless you make up to them. So now you need to do something to show that you really want to apologize to them and also tell them how special they are for you. They need to know that they are an important part of your life. Their heart might start thinking of giving you another chance.
- Write a letter to apologize
Sometimes you are not able to explain verbally what you want to say. You may not be able to apologize the way you want by showing feelings of being sorry. But writing an apology letter can be effective. You partner may not want to meet you or talk to you, but they will definitely go through your letter at least once. And explaining everything and expressing your deepest regrets about the wrong you did to them in a letter can prove to be much helpful in such a situation. [ Read: 15 Broken Heart Quotes and Sayings ]
- Give them time
You cannot be behind someone’s life to forgive you all of a sudden for your mistakes. You need to give your partner some time to think, evaluate the situation, realize how much sorry you are feeling and then take a decision, whether they want to forgive you or no.
- Tell them that you are waiting
Once you are done with your part by saying sorry and apologizing for your mistake in every way possible, it is time for you to be patient and wait for your partner to make the next move. Tell them that you are ready to give them as much time as they want and you will wait for them to forgive you. If you know that your love for them is true and you’re really sorry for your mistake, they will come back to you. [ Read: Cute Short Romantic Love Story Every Couple Must Read ]
Every relationship has problems, big or small. But sometimes you hurt your partner to a big extent that they get really frustrated and angry over you. Their anger has increased to such a level that they are just not ready to listen to you or accept your apology. But if you know that you are fault, then you have to make up to them, no matter want it takes. The above given tips will be helpful for you in case you are stuck in a similar situation and you are planning to apologize to you partner. But make sure that you don’t hurt them intentionally for your own benefit. And once your partner has forgiven you, be careful about not repeating you mistake that hurts them once again. You will even have to give them a feeling of assurance that you will not do anything that may hurt him again. Being sorry does not make you a smaller person.