Girlfriend Has Her Period? Here’s How To Make Her Feel Better.
If you are old enough to date, you would know that most women bleed every month. Some are god’s favorite and have their periods for just 3 days, while the not so favorite ones have to go through their painful period cramps for up to a week or more. Are you confused why your charming, caring girlfriend is acting up every 28 to 35 days or so? Don’t worry if you are not sure what to do to ease her pain and handle her mood swings. It’s often confusing to women, too. If she is laughing one minute and crying the next, it does not mean she has gone crazy, she is not acting up because you are not able to feel her pain nor go along with her emotions in her roller coaster. It’s her period. It’s not an easy thing to go through every month.
There’s a high chance that she won’t even blame you for not knowing what to do. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t help her out. Listed in this articles are few short tips that I believe might come handy to help you help her out.
Learn about the changes caused by her period
You can’t help her with anything, unless you have needed knowledge on how her body reacts and changes according to her period. And it’s not simple, yet not difficult. Couple hours of online research would help learn a lot. With a little understanding of the complex process of menstruation, you’ll become more aware of why she feels and acts the way she does. Learn about the four phases of menstrual cycle such as 1) The Menstrual Phase, 2) The Follicular Phase, 3) The Ovulation Phase, 4) The Luteal Phase.
You will find enough information on this on many websites so I am not explaining it here. Don’t stress about trying to learn and remember all of these things. Just having a general idea will do.
It can can be highly variable
All women menstruate differently. It’s an experience that can be highly variable, and could be totally chill for one while being really irritable for other. So avoid comparisons. If her mood swings are a bit difficult to handle, do not tell her “my ex didn’t act up this much, I’ve never seen my sister behaving such during her periods, etc…”. Even premenstrual symptoms affect women differently. Some might be depressed, while some are prey to insomnia. She might change her appetite or could have poor concentration. It differs from one woman to other. The last thing she wants to hear from you when her hormones are causing an havoc is “why is it, it’s so much drama during your periods when other girls are fine”. Do not do that, support her in any way you can or stay silent and let her deal with it. She’s been dealing with her periods long before she has been dealing with you, so she could take care of herself.
Pamper & be thoughtful
Don’t blame her irritability on her period, instead be patient and try to figure out where that irritability is coming from and try to ease it. Pamper her, maybe that’s all she wants to get back to good mood. Get in to the kitchen, cook for couple few days. It would be difficult for her to feed you when she is struggling with period pain. So be thoughtful and take on more of the household chores and errands.
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S*x during periods
Yes having penetrative and non-penetrative intercourse while menstruating is totally fine. Period blood is not ‘impure’, it’s not going to infect your manhood, as long as you’re comfortable and in the mood, go for it. S*x is a proven stress-buster that elevates your mood instantly, if she is going through mood swings and if this would elevate her mood, do it.
But again for some women it won’t be idle, they would feel extreme pain in their nether region during their periods. And s*x is a bit painful pleasure. Pelvic pain in between periods could cause intercourse very painful. Don’t try to add more pain to it cause you couldn’t keep it in your pants till her period stops. Depending on her period cycle and libido change during periods, she could be more aroused than usual. By satisfying her, you might be able to set her free from her mood swings. Period se* can also help ease her cramps and boost her mood.
Period massage helps ease cramps, bloating, and other PMS
Yes you can help her with easing her cramps, bloating and other PMS with just massage. You don’t have to attend courses on how to massage, just learn from the internet. Learn it and give her a good one. And don’t complain about it. And don’t tell her how lucky she is that you are giving her a massage. It is not prohibited or contraindicated to touch her during her periods. Massage will benefit her physically and emotionally during her monthly menstrual cycle.
Give her space
You will know if your girlfriend needs her space during her period, or if she wants you to pamper her. Learn to know what is what and if some alone time is what she requires, just give her that. No questions asked. She’ll come back to you when she’s ready. You don’t have to check with her every five minutes. Be attentive and flexible to what she wants and when she wants. If you think she is annoyed by you, just ask her in a nonjudgmental tone if she just wants some space and give her that.
Water. Drinking a lot of water is always important, and if she is not in a mood to go fetch some water, fetch it for her. Her body craves foods that will give her a quick energy boost when her hormones are acting up. Deprived of the foods she crave for will make her feel down. Just like some foods ease period symptoms, other foods may make them worse. So make sure you give her the right thing. She craves for sugary foods to boost her serotonin levels. Which in-turn will cheer her up. So don’t call her a child if she asks you to get some candy. Plus dark chocolate is packed with magnesium, potassium and iron, which is needed for her to stay fit. Chocolates are great in taste but they can trigger the blood flow. So make sure she is eating the right amount and right kind of food. Just don’t get her the things that you saw first or is easy to get, cause you are lazy like me.
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Few more tips
You know you are allowed to purchase tampons and sanitary pads right? You don’t have to be a female to get some and keep a stash at your house. If you have a female in your life, you should do this too.
Let her sleep, she might have difficulty sleeping at night. So if you find her sleeping late on a Sunday morning, you don’t have to wake her up.
She wants to watch a silly drama? But you just got the latest action packed horror movie, which she has no interest in watching? Watch the so called silly drama instead. Try to do things that gives her some sort of comfort.
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Author ~ Manoj.