Find Out are You Dating the Wrong Guy?
It is absolutely normal to doubt that you are dating the wrong guy. Sometimes you are so madly in love with your boyfriend that you don’t realize it soon in the relationship. When the relationship gradually evolves, you slowly realize that may be he is not the right guy for you. His actions, reactions symbolize that he may not be the right person to be with. [ Read: 13 Simple Ways To Avoid Falling In Love With The Wrong One! ]
You, on the other hand waste your precious time dating the wrong man, leaving behind other important things in life like career, friends, your ambition etc. But it is not your fault, so don’t blame yourself for being with the wrong guy, just be alert and once you know he is wrong for you, try to come out of such a relationship as soon as you can rather than trying to make him understand and fix the problem all by yourself.
If you have a doubt and you want to find out whether he is right or wrong, you need to take into consideration some important signs. The following are a few signs that you are dating the wrong guy –
- You are unable to introduce him to your friends, family and relatives
Sometimes you are not sure whether he is the one you can introduce to your family, friends and relative. Or may be he himself does not wish to meet your family and friends and keeps making some or the other excuse to escape such meetings. If you cannot make him meet your family, then may be your relationship is not meant to be forever. [ Read: Abandonment Issues and How it Affects Your Relationship ]
- He does not listen to what you say
It is very important that your partner listens to you if you want to make your relationship work. He should be able to listen to you, understand your needs, acknowledge them and act upon it. If he does not like listening to you, then there is no point in making the relationship work. A relationship gets stronger when you talk about every small thing with your partner.
- He wants to be with you 24×7
Dating a guy who is too clingy can be irritating. Such men start interfering at every stage of your life, which can be too frustrating. Everyone needs his or her own space, be it a guy or a girl. If he depends on you way too much and you think that you are not able to breathe then it is time that you think over your relationship once. [ Read: 10 Reasons Your Ideal Man Wish List isn’t Working For You ]
- When you are with him, you are not the real you
When you are in a relationship with a guy and he starts nagging you for acting like someone else then its time for you to take an action. Either you need to start being yourself and see if he is ok with it or just end the relationship right there.
- You both do not share the same interests
It is not important that you both like each other’s interests but at least sharing some interests in common are required in order to make a relationship work. If there is nothing in common that you share, then there are no grounds for even starting the relationship. [ Read: 10 Signs to Know if You’re Dating a Girl Worth Keeping ]
- He is very self centered
If the only thing that he does is think and talk about himself, then that means he is a self centered guy. He does not care about what is happening in your life or what is your goal in life. A relationship becomes strong and successful only when two people work out things together.
- You get exhausted spending too much time with him
If spending time with him makes you exhausted then you may want to think about ending the relationship. You may be getting mentally or emotionally drained out after meeting him. [ Read: I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly, It Wasn’t Fair ]
- You cannot have important and difficult conversations with him
There are some things and even situations that need to be discussed with your guy, but he does not wish to talk about them with you because he is not ready for it.
- You cannot see a future with him
You may be happy with him right now but you cannot imagine of having a future with him because of some reason. It could be financial, or may be you know that in the future things will not be good for the both of you. [ Read: 10 Ways to Avoid the Awkward Tension After an Argument ]
- He makes you feel that you are not enough for him
He makes you feel insecure rather than giving you a feeling that you are the one for him. He makes you feel that you are not good enough for him in any way. This makes you feel all the more worse.
You may be deeply in love with your guy but if these above given signs are present in your relationship, then you need to understand that it is important for you to either fix the problem that you are facing in the relationship or end the relationship before you both get too much involved in each other and it gets worse. You cannot sustain a relationship for long if you are with the wrong guy. Take action for yourself because there is no point in wasting time with such a guy who is not right for you. You are special in your own way and if he is not being good to you, then it is his loss, not yours and never ever blame yourself if your relationship is not working out well.