8 Worst Ways of Breaking Up with Someone
Breaking up is not a pleasant thing to do. It can be quite sad, difficult, turbulent and dramatic. Breaking up with someone is very harsh and painful. Thus, knowing how to break up or separate from them is essential in order to lower the level of harshness. A break up is not the end of life, it just means that two people who liked each other a lot are not as compatible or comfortable with each other as much as they expected. And endings always give rise to new beginnings. [ Read: Men And Their Ridiculous Break-up Lines ]
But the truth is, that break ups do take a toll on people. They can affect people emotionally, mentally and socially. You are taking away a part of their life from them, for your own reasons. It is absolutely essential that you break up in a mature manner without making it a showdown or insulting the other person. [ Read: Top 10: Reasons to Break it up with HER.
There is always a code of doing things and a list of how not to do certainly.
Let me shed some light on the worst ways of breaking up with your partner.
- By leaving them a voicemail
Voice mail, seriously? The person doesn’t even get to hear you while you say the words of parting in real time? This just means, you are being selfish and are avoiding a confrontation. This will leave your partner furious as they will not be able to vent out while you are saying the words which will hurt them to no end. Calling them and telling them to break up via a phone call is also one of the worst ways to break up. [ Read: 6 ways to help your friend overcome a break up ]
- When it’s their birthday or other special occasions
For God’s sake, keep the news to yourself for a few more days instead of spoiling their special day like if it’s their birthday, your anniversary or Valentine’s Day. It will become a permanent wound in their heart and will remind them of your break up every single year. Don’t become a devil in someone’s life.
- When they gift you or surprise you
If they are gifting you something or surprising you with something special, you might feel weird or awkward, but do not break the news at this point. It will hurt them too much. Imagine your boyfriend gifting you a piece of fine diamond jewellery and you telling him that you just can’t bear to be with him anymore. [ Read: 5 Reasons why one sided love borders self destruction ]
- By texting them or via email
You would be really stupid if you do this! This isn’t a joke or a casual talk. It is a very important change that will affect both of your lives. Give it more importance than just a text via your phone.
- In front of children (in case you are married)
If you are a married couple, and your marriage is on the verge of a breakup, keep your children out of it until you figure it out. Especially if you are initiating the talk of parting for the very first time with your partner, doing it in front of your kids is a terrible idea. Your whole family tree doesn’t need to hear the problems you face as a couple or why you don’t love each other anymore. [ Read: Rebuilding lost trust: a lost cause? ]
- By leaving a hand-written note
This is the least of all devils, but still, it isn’t a good way at all. A note will only portray your feelings or your side of the story. A breakup talk requires two people to understand and communicate with each other.
- When they are fired
If a person gets fired, he is obviously demoralized to a huge extent. It is not a good time, to give them more trouble in their personal life as well. Wait a few days, until they get a new job and regain their lost spirit. Be sensitive. [Read: Rebuilding lost trust: a lost cause? ]
- In front of public or in a public place
Don’t create a scene by putting up a fight. You don’t need to break up at a restaurant or in front of friends or family. A person might want to cry or vent out their frustration, which he or she might be unable to in public place. Moreover, it makes you look really bad in front of the public.
What is the worst break up you have had? Share your views in the comments section.
Don’t create a scene by putting up a fight. You don’t need to break up at a restaurant or in front of friends or family. A person might want to cry or vent out their frustration, which he or she might be unable to in public place. Moreover, it makes you look really bad in front of the public
What is the worst break up you have had? Share your views in the comments section.
