16 Signs You Are Settling In an Unhappy Relationship
You’ve landed a date with that hot guy from your neighbourhood – that date lands you many more dates and now you’re thrilled to be in a relationship with him. It is like the romance in movies!
However, you soon realise that he’s not what you thought and your relationship isn’t what you imagined. So what do you do? Do you move on or try to make do with the situation. Here are some signs that tell you are settling in your relationship –
- No deep talk
All your conversations are quite regular and brief. You tell each other about your day at work, but avoid engaging in deep, meaningful talks about life, your feelings, education – you don’t feel that connection to have an intellectual interaction. [Read : 13 Reasons You are Bored of Your Relationship ]
- A monotonous routine
Do you find yourself doing the same things everyday? You and and your partner eat dinner at the same restaurant when you’ll go out, meet the same people everyday, run the same route every morning! Sounds boring, doesn’t it? It is great to have a routine, yet spontaneity is very essential to keep your relationship alive!
- Small things annoy you
When you start spending more and more time with someone, things are different. You will realise his annoying addiction to gadgets or how her way of talking can irritate your ears. Initially these little things didn’t bother you, but now you cannot stand him/her! [Read : 13 Signs of a Rebound Relationship ]
- A happy life alone
You love it when he/she cancels a date night or goes off for the weekend because you have time to yourself. Also, you start imagining how happy life would be if you were single! This is one of the clearest signs that you are unhappy in your relationship.
- Scared to let go
You know you aren’t too happy with your partner and your relationship isn’t going anywhere, but you don’t want to accept it. You are afraid of being single and wonder whether you will find another partner. [Read : 16 Abusive Relationship Signs You Need to Reconsider! ]
- Too much dependence
Your partner is a great support system in your life – whenever you need to fix your car, or pick up your dry cleaning, or cook a meal for a few friends – he/she is a major helping hand. You have become so dependent on your partner that you wouldn’t know what to do if he/she is not around. So even though you are not romantically inclined, you keep him/her around.
- No butterflies
Romance and excitement are two sides of the same coin! The smile on your face and the butterflies in your stomach when you see your partner is something you cannot describe, but only feel. If this excitement is wearing off, it means your relationship, too, is following the same dull path! [Read : 15 Signs She’s Leading You to Nowhere on the Relationship Path! ]
- Look for the good
The relationship is quite dead, yet you always look for some light in it. Yes, it is good to be positive and encouraging, however if you are just looking for reasons to make your relationship sound like a happy one, you know this is just settling for something you don’t deserve.
- The relationship is ‘okay’
When people ask you how is your relationship going, your response is never, “its awesome!” or, “oh! I love being in love!” or, “he’s so great! I can’t believe my luck!” Instead, you just end up with monosyllabic responses such as, “fine” or “okay.” [Read : Relationship Tips for Single Women ]
- Checking out other people
Your disinterest in him/her shows in the way you look at other guys/girls – your eyes have been wandering at that cute girl at your workplace or that smart guy in your gym. Since your territory is boring, you want some excitement.
- Don’t give honest opinions
You have stopped giving your opinions or suggestions because they are always overruled. Be it your view on the colour of the room, the kind of car your partner should buy, his/her career graph, etc. You don’t involve your partner in your life and vice versa. [Read : 13 Relationship Mistakes New Couples Make All the Time! ]
- You’re wants are ignored
You enjoy a scoop of ice cream once in awhile, you like to watch a particular TV show, you like going for drives – but your partner doesn’t care about all this. In short, you are doing only what your partner likes, while your wants and needs are not addressed.
- Wish to be single
Do you get jealous of your single friends? Well, since you are unhappy about your situation, you will envy all the free birds around you enjoying life and loving their freedom. [Read : 10 Big Problems In A Relationship And How To Fix Them ]
- Criticism to the limit
Your partner is always criticising you! He/she assumes you can never do anything right and will not hesitate to put you down even in public. Why do you want to be with someone who is insulting you in so many ways? Never settle for such bad behaviour!
- He needs me
According to you, your partner is completely dependent on you and your presence! If you decide to walk out of the relationship, he/she will be crushed! Well, all this is your assumption; even if it is true don’t make it look like you are doing the opposite person a favour – remember, all wounds heal! [Read : 9 tips to work out a long distance relationship ]
- Things will change
You know that this is not your ideal relationship, but you hope that things between the both of you will improve – he may start caring more, she may start showing interest in your life and so on. Don’t live on this hope because you are treading on a thin rope.
If your relationship has the spark and you cannot get enough of your partner, you know you’re on the right path. But, if you sense that you’re in it just for the sake of it, walk out right away! It is a waste of time to be in a relationship you don’t think you deserve! Life has so many opportunities, so don’t worry – you will not be alone!