13 Pros & Cons of Dating Someone Smarter than You
You’ve met a guy at a friend’s party – good-looking, well spoken and intelligent and an owner of two masters’ degrees! The minute you hear he is so smart and educated, you are intimidated; you don’t know how he is going to perceive you hence, you start shying away from him. However, dating someone smarter than you works both ways, here are the highs and lows of having a smarter partner.
- You’ll learn
You learn something new every day from your smart partner. He/she will introduce you to newspapers, books, politics, history and so much more. Soon you may find your interest and learn about that, so all in all you will not only learn new aspects, but also develop good habits. [ Read: Being a Casanova – Pros and Cons ]
- You’ll be encourage
Your partner will encourage you to indulge in reading and knowing more about the world. If you think you are good enough, he/she will persuade you to move ahead and become great! Moreover, seeing your partner doing well in his/her career and life is in itself a big encouragement factor.
- Be a power couple
You too are a smart human being, so you may be good at things he is not and vice-versa. Use your strengths to your advantage – individually you will be good, but together you’ll have the capacity to be the best! For example, if he is good with numbers and you are good with management, use both these positives and become a powerful team. [ Read: Double Date with other couples – Pros and Cons ]
- Your own encyclopaedia
You have a query about the current war, or the change in Government, or why is KFC gaining more popularity than Mc Donalds – you don’t need to Google any of this, instead just ask your partner and he will have all your answers. You should be proud of the fact that he is knowledgeable and well read that he has an answer for all your questions!
- It is annoying
Beware of all the smartness, because it tends to turn into arrogance, over-confidence and stubbornness! You may respect your partner for his intelligence, yet dealing with a know-it-all can be exasperating. When the situation starts getting on your nerves, politely convey to know him that you too have some brains of your own. [ Read: Office Romance – Pros and Cons ]
- Different goals
Your smart partner may be very successful in his career and thanks to all his promotions his dreams are quite different from yours. Your dream may be to open a cafe or teach music. Both your goals are great – all you need to do is step in each other’s shoes and understand each other’s wants and strengths.
- Negative Competition
It is amazing to see your partner supporting you and pushing you to greater heights. However, in the process of inculcating smart habits, you start competing with your partner himself. For instance, you will start looking for a job that is better paying than his or try to win public attention by trying to speak about the current president on whom you haven’t researched well. Compete with him/her if you like, but make sure it is all in good health. [ Read: Chat Room Friendship – Pros and Cons ]
- You are pushed to your nerves
It is great that your partner pushes you to strive for the best; however this push on your back may be too hard at times. You do not always want to be taught lessons and given lectures about life under the pretext of motivating you.
- Parent’s favourite
Whether you like his lectures or not, your parents are going to like everything about him! All parents wish that their child should marry an intelligent partner and when you take home a smart boy, he has won all hearts instantly! [ Read: Double Date with other couples – Pros and Cons ]
- You don’t win an argument
Smart partners have answers ready for all everything! No matter if your argument in right or wrong, your partner will have a counter-attack ready. He/she may also take advantage of the fact that he is smarter and assume that he is always going to win all arguments hands down.
- When intelligence turns into cockiness
Suddenly you may notice that your intelligent partner has started behaving like a teenager. When you are with your friends and family, you will observe him making ridiculous statements, sometimes mocking people. For example, he will shout out and boast how he has completed two masters while his neighbour is struggling with his first. [ Read: Dating best friends – Pros and Cons ]
- You feel intimidated
His smartness will make you feel timid and low! There will be times when you will feel like just running away from him because you feel quite dumb around him. Don’t overburden yourself with such thoughts, because you are also smart and there may be something that you are better at than him.
- A different perspective
Someone who thinks at another level will always have a different view to any situation, so your intelligent partner will help you look at your life in a light you never thought of before. Discuss and debate your career and relations with him and see how his perspective varies from yours; and if it works well for you, use the advice. [ Read: Blind Dating – Pros and Cons ]
Whether he is smarter or you, never let that come in between your relationship. You must always appreciate your partner and put yourself in his shoes to understand him better and of course, apply both your positives to make one big success i.e. your relationship!