13 Dating Tips for Single Mothers
Being a single woman is quite tough. And when you are a single mother, it gets all the more difficult. Single mothers are strong and that is why they chose what they chose. But does that mean that they have to spend their entire life single and dedicated to their child? The child is obviously the first priority of every single mother. But later on, once the child is old enough to go school, the mother can reconsider going out there and begin the dating process. [ Read: A Letter from A Newly Married Daughter to Her Mother and Father ]
However, the dating rules and tips are not nearly the same as that for a single woman. Since you have a responsibility of a child on you, you must tread carefully. Here are some tips which every single woman must consider when she begins dating again. (Check out: 8 Tips to Help Restore Your Relationship with Your Child
- Don’t date just about anyone. Remember that you cannot afford to experiment and waste time. It will affect your time and also might affect your child. Date guys you are genuinely interested in.
- Don’t shy away from dating. It is important to have a companion and your child will understand that as well. It is important that you don’t just seclude yourself completely from the entire activity.
- It’s better if you keep your kids out of your dating life, until it gets really serious. They don’t need to really know about the details of your dates. And bringing fairly strange men over to your home can be fatal and can raise lot of questions. (Read Story: The Selfish Mother )
- Don’t typecast men. Just because something didn’t work out with your EX or your child’s father, it doesn’t mean that all men are the same. Some men can make you happy and accept you for what you are.
- Don’t just keep jabbering about your kids on the date. It is not cool. Just because half your mind is at home, doesn’t mean your date wants to hear all about your kids and nothing about yourself.
- It is important to not present yourself as the broken one in front of your date with regards to your previous relationship. Do not tell them the story of your break up and how you were left alone on the first date with the guy. Being a single mother is tough and requires immense strength and take credit for it.
- Don’t neglect your needs. It is important that you acknowledge your needs and face them. You deserve to have a companion too. Make yourself over, if you think you don’t look as attractive as earlier.
- It is important to be honest to your date about your role as a single mother. Yes, you may not divulge much about your child or you can open up with time. But it is essential for them to know your facts before things go ahead.
- Many guys might turn you down or take a step back once they get to know that you are a mother as well. Instead of getting disappointed and disheartened, think of it as time saved. If they reacted the same way, much further in a relationship, it would waste a lot of your time and emotions.
- Keep yourself motivated and remember that you are a strong woman and if someone cannot stand by you for what you are, he cannot ever love you the way you want.
- Do introduce your kids to your date in a subtle way as a friend if things start getting serious. Increase the role of your date in their lives and get them friendly with him. Slowly they will understand and will accept your relation.
- Date somebody who you think will make your kids happy. You need to date a guy who understands that you are a mother and respects your priorities. Dating somebody who constantly nags you and doesn’t care for your facts is surely not worth it.
- Expect hesitation from your kids. Letting someone in their private circle can be very tough for them. You cannot force them to like your guy. You need to be very careful and expect them to hesitate and be awkward at first.
- Read here: 7 Reasons why family rules are important
It is tough to be single parent and also date at the same time. What are your views on this post? Please do share your views in with us in the comments section.
