11 Clear Giveaways of an Emotionally Unavailable Man
It is just not easy to identify a man who is emotionally unavailable. Sometimes in the starting of a new relationship you don’t realize how your guy actually is. And later when you want to take your relationship to the next level, you realize that he wasn’t as much into the relationship as you were. When you ask them to give a commitment, they turn their backs and run away. [ Read: 10 Big Signs of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking ]
There are basically 3 characteristics of such men. Firstly, they are poor communicators. The do not share their feelings and thoughts with anyone. They prefer keeping secrets about themselves. Secondly, they are filled with excuses. For everything that he is unable to do for you or give you, they are ready with hundreds of excuses every time. And thirdly, they will run away from serious commitment. They will always avoid talking about the future of your relationship.
Listed below are 11 clear giveaways to recognize an emotionally unavailable man.
- Do less and talk more
When you talk to such men, you will notice that he is nothing but just talking big. They love talking about themselves all the time. I am this, I did this, I did that and so on. They will keep on bragging about themselves and even about materialistic things. Say for example – I got this watch from Switzerland and it costs 900 dollars. All they try to do is make a fake impression on others. [ Read: Brother Writes an Emotional Letter to His Little Sister ]
- Attention seekers
Men who are emotionally handicapped really love being in the spotlight. They have a huge ego, which does not let them being modest. However, there are also men who like to socialize a lot but you should be able to recognize if he is really a socialite or an attention grabber without any reason. You can identify them by looking upon their arrogance, low self-confidence and even jealousy.
- Try to hide and manipulate their past
Men who are emotionally unavailable have a questionable past. You should try and know how he was not dating someone when you both met, this will help you to know why he behaves in such a way with you that you do not really like. It may be possible than he has been cheated in his past, then you need to give him time to come close to you. But if you come to know that he was the one who cheated, then there are chances that he might cheat on you too. [ Read: 12 Minute Signs You Are Being Manipulated By Your Lover ]
- His uncertain and vague attitude
Another sign of his emotional unavailability is his unclear, uncertain or say vague attitude. He will not be clear while discussing his goals, feelings, and thoughts about you and your future with him. He will always try and ignore any kind of discussion on such issues that are related to your relationship. Men of this category also do not give clear answers to your questions either.
- They are not helpful
Men who are emotionally unavailable are very self-centred. They will never offer help to anyone who is in need of it. They will think over it many times before he offers help to others. He may take this as a waste of time and energy. All they think is that how to get benefit for himself by using others. [ Read: 10 Big Signs of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking]
- Excuse makers
Men who are emotionally crippled always find excuses for their non-performance. Most of the time when they are unable to do something, they will not accept their fault; rather they will blame it on the situation or put the blame on someone else or give some silly excuse.
- They are not good at keeping long-term relationship with anyone
Such men who are emotionally unavailable do not care whether he has friends or no. People may come into his life and go away from him after getting to know his attitude. It does not affect him, as they are just not emotionally attached to any person, be it friends and sometimes even family members. [ Read: 18 Relationship Turn Off That Have The Power to Ruin a Healthy Relationship! ]
- Are moody
Emotionally unavailable people are very moody. They will do only those things that they like, when they what, the way they want to do irrespective of what you like and what you dislike. Even in situations when you ask him to meet, he might refuse. An emotionally unavailable man is moody enough that he might straight away refuse to meet you if he does not want. He will meet you only when he wants to, or else make some excuse.
- Do not easily spend money
Such men who are emotionally weak, they do not feel happy while spending money for his girlfriend. He may find excuses of not carrying money with him. He may insist or try to make others pay bill for him at movies or when they go for a cup of coffee. [ Read: 17 Brilliant Ways to Save Money as a Couple]
- Do not respect girls
Emotionally unavailable men do not have the trait of respecting women. Be it his girlfriends, his friend, his sister or some unknown women. He may talk to them in a wrong, disrespectful or rude manner if he does not like them.
- Have fun and play with a girl’s emotions
When you are looking forward to a serious relationship, you get emotionally attached to your guy but this is not the same with them. Emotionally unavailable men just enjoy your company in the starting, but when it comes to giving commitment, they may start ignoring you. [ Read: 5 Fun Ways to Add Spark into Your Relationship ]
Fortunately these are some warning signs to identify such emotionally unavailable men. By paying attention to them, you can save yourself from the consequences of being with them. Always remember that you should never trust anyone blindly, keep your eyes wide open so that you know towards which way he is taking the relationship.