Read Why We Should Not Force Love and Give it Time
One thing should be noticed very clearly in life. when it comes to relationships, you should not expect anything. If he does not discuss any plans with you, don’t expect to be a part of them any time in your life. If he doesn’t discuss his future plans with you, don’t force yourself to get into them. If he doesn’t show that he loves you, never assume it. If it’s just the starting of your relationship, don’t expect it to last long forever. Only one person cannot drag a relationship for a long time. Both the partners should be equally contributing at their parts to make it a memorable one. [ Check out: 5 Reasons Why Men Quit You ]
Sometimes it becomes quite irresistible not to force something which you want desperately, but in reality if you force somebody to be in the relationship, then that thing becomes a total disaster. At some point of time, one may even force the other one to love, but forcing somebody to love does not make any sense. One may go through numerous emotions, even making excuses for why he/she isn’t reciprocating their actions. The reality might be that he/she is just not interested in you and just trying to come-up with reasons so that you won’t get hurt or you don’t blame him for playing games with you.
Love is a feeling which should come internally and which should garner your surrounding with peace. It definitely should not be forced. Even if somebody is not interested, one may continue to be in the relation just to have fun or one may simply drag it just for the sake of it. which is really wrong. Some realize it too soon and some might spend years to realize that keeping a relationship like this has no use at all. [ Also read: 22 Things To Never Do After A Breakup
There are various ways by which you can find out whether it is real or just a relationship which is being dragged. One such way is to observe who is more interested in initiating plans. That is if you are the only one in the relationship who is always initiating a plan or a date, and the other one is just accepting at times or declining the plan, then you should know that it is the time to call it off. It is not right to take anybody’s ignorance every time. Your self respect should be valued by your partner in abundance.
Sometimes you may also feel that he is just not interested to share his future plans with you. Or he does not want to include you in his future plans. Either way you are the one who is being used or taken for granted. When you mention marriage, his face is blank. If this happens with you even after a long sought out relationship, then you should know it’s time to call it off.
One of the reasons might be his habit of avoiding serious issues. But it can be taken in other way round where maybe it’s just his way of ignoring that topic, You know you are not dating a kid who is always in for fun and never up for serious issues. This can be the biggest signs that he’s just wasting your time. If you talk about how to strengthen your relation or make it better, and he simply avoids it, then you definitely need to evaluate your relationship for a better bonding from both the sides.
It is important to be appreciated from the one you love. Nobody wants to feel rejected from anybody. It is most disheartening when you face rejection from the one you most care about. When you are constantly living in this negative feeling, then it is time to re-evaluate your relationship once more and giving it a next shot only if it gets through. If your better half is not ready to compromise or listen to your side of story, then you can come to know how he feels for the relationship.
If you are the only one who initiates texts or calls every time. And he’s job is just to respond. That is, you both talk twice a day only because you initiate. But if you leave it on him then you will just end up talking to each other twice a week. If this is the case, then it is wrong for the two of you to continue. If a guy really wants to speak to you, then he will surely take out time to talk to you. Just because he answers your calls, doesn’t mean that he’s dying to talk to you. If he’s as serious as you are, then he will take out time to speak to you every once in a while to keep the relation going well. [ Read here: 16 Reasons Why My Love Is Only For You ]
Conclusion is that if he’s not into you 100%, then you need to give yourself a rest instead of a daily headache. It will continue to ruin your life by going around with him and he not giving you enough attention. It will also disturb his life if you continue to disturb him when he doesn’t need your attention. People who don’t deserve your attention or don’t worth your efforts should not be given such privileges.