Find out are You in Love with Two People?
Being in love is simple but being in love with two different people at the same time is complicated. It was once said that you fall in true love only once in your lifetime. But that’s not really true these days. It is very much possible and okay if you find your self in love with two individuals. [ Read: 15 Biggest Dating Deal Breakers for Women! ]
Now the problem is that your mind is not stable here because you know it is morally unethical to date two people at the same time and you cannot continue doing this for long. You are ideally cheating both of them. You feel like you are stuck in the middle of a road that is heading towards two different paths and you need to choose either of them.
If you think you are facing such a feeling, then here are a few signs that tell you if you are truly in love with two people or if its just a temporary infatuation with either of them –
- Look at the qualities of each
You can make a list by noting down the qualities of both of them. There are certain good qualities that make a good partner like compassion, compatibility, kindness, affectionate and loyalty etc. you can think which one of them has better qualities if you are looking for a long term relationship. [ Read: 13 Pros & Cons of Dating Someone Smarter than You
- Find out whom are you better compatible with
It is important that you understand whom are you more compatible with. You can number the things according to your importance like finances, common interests, personalities, etc. These things can act as a milestone towards the right person.
- Comparison
Now is the right time that you can decide which person is better for you by comparing their qualities. By this you can be much clear which person is more suitable for you. [ Read: 7 Little Ways to Stop Being So Jealous In a Relationship ]
- Write the negatives of both
You can also consider the negative factors with both the people like which one of those are bad at compromises, who gets angry easily, who has no ambitions in life, which one of them fights more often, tries to dominate you, etc.
- Understand your feelings for each one of them
Whether a person is right or wrong, the most important thing that matters is how you feel for each one of them. You need to understand with whom do you enjoy and feel comfortable with. Also other things like who loves you more, who cares for you more, with whom do you have more fun etc. [ Read: 10 Big Signs of Emotional Abuse You May Be Overlooking ]
- Consider how does each one of them treat life
It is very important to consider factors like how each one of them is as a person, how they react while handling emergency situation or say real life situations. How they treat other people around, do they easily accept their mistakes and agree on making faults. Also how they deal with the ups and downs of their life.
- Imagine your life while you are with one and without the other
Consider yourself breaking the heart of both the people. Whom cannot you see not getting hurt? It will clearly indicate which one person you love. Another thing that you can do is close your eyes and see which person makes you really happy being with. With whom can you imagine your life forever? [ Read: 10 Sure Signs to Tell that Your Relationship is Over ]
- Ask for help from family and friends
Sometimes when you are confused about taking certain decision about life, you can consider talking to your family and friends. They can guide you and give their opinion about who is the right person for you and more suitable for you.
- Person with a better potential
It is impossible to live life without proper financial planning. You need to think practically also after a certain point about the person with whom can you have a better future. The person who has a stable future will be able to fulfill your needs better. [ Read: 14 Subtle Signs Your Girlfriend’s Not Over Her Ex ]
- And finally confession
Once you decide which person you will be with, it is important that tell the person with whom you don’t want to be. You cannot keep dating two people at the same time as it is morally unethical. You need to confess it to them about your feelings and the reason why you cannot be with the one you choose to leave.
Each one of us has once been in a phase of life where you are in love with two people. Initially you may think that it is fun but after a while when you have to deal with both of them at the same time, life gets complicated and depressing. You cannot easily hide things from both of them. And in case you get caught, it will not be easy to escape the situation. If you find your self stuck in such a situation, you can go through the above given point that will help you choose the right person among the two. Don’t get greedy by thinking to keep both the people in you life. Choose among one of them and move towards the right person for you. Don’t blame yourself even if you get stuck up or you get caught. Try and explain how it happened and what all you went through. The right person who is made for you will still want to be with you and understand your situation and you will automatically find true love.
