Effective Communication in a Relationship
In the hustle bustle of everyday life and the marathon for chasing our dreams we are losing a loop with our loved ones. AREN’T WE? We say one thing, the other person hears something else, and misunderstandings, frustration, and conflicts starts sprouting. Communication is not only about exchanging information but to share our intent and emotion behind that exchange. We aren’t doing so which is why the connection starts to loosen up. [ Read: 12 Things Happy Couples Talk About and Feel Closer ]
So, here are 10 ways on how to get your spark back with your bae and share a well communicative relationship.
- BE A GOOOOD LISTENER
Listening well means not just understanding the words or the information but also understanding what the other person feels about it. When they speak, try to focus not only on the words but go down deep into the crux of the matter. [ Read: Can Long Distance Love Survive the Distance? ]
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS! Their touch or look that instantly gives you jitters in all the right places is more important than any other love gesture. The way you look, move, and react to the person tells them more about how you’re feeling than words alone ever can. So you better start working on that touch right now.
- HOLD IT
When you are stressed and under the control of your emotions you are most likely to misread the other person and plant up a throne of misunderstanding. So, calm down and give the right response, not your ‘I am mad at you and I am going to kill you’ reaction. [ Read: 11 Signs He Loves You Even If He Doesn’t Say It Out Loud ]
- FROM THE HEART
Now that doesn’t mean you will keep talking and blabbering whatever strikes your mind but agree to be honest and clear about your thoughts , opinions and disagreement . Because at the end of the day faking it could land you into a big turmoil.
- RIGHT TIME
If something is bothering you and you would like to have a serious conversation about it, make sure you pick the right time to talk. Don’t interrupt when they are in between something oh and wait, hold on! Public places are a big no, so don’t even think of having that conversation in the nearby coffee shop. Don’t forget to keep your calm because aura adds up to the weight of the matter so watch out before you attack! [ Read: Read Why We Should Not Force Love And Give It Time ]
- THINK. TALK.
If you get really angry about something, stop, take a step back and breathe. Figure out the real problem and then go about it. Instantly reacting when you are mad only satisfies your ego but doesn’t really solve the purpose. It’s always wise to keep your cool in such situations and respond in the most chilled out manner.
- SWITCH OFF THAT PHONE
Switch off that buzzer when going for a serious or a romantic talk. Those phone calls and texts in between definitely kill that special moment. You must put all your time and focus on your partner to make him feel special wanted and definitely no ignored. [ Read: I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly, It Wasn’t Fair ]
- HAVE A GAME PLAN BEFORE YOU BEGIN
Be ready with your to do list and note down if it’s difficult to hold it in your head. Talk to the point and just don’t go around the topic. Running around the bushes and not being clear will only make the problem worse. No , you don’t have to practice the argument 3 hours before you meet but there is no harm in jotting down the points quickly on a piece of paper so that you don’t miss out on anything important. I know, this might sounds really weird to you but love makes you do weird things.
- NO BLAME GAME
Don’t just jump into an argument and start telling your partner the fifteen things he or she has been doing wrong. Don’t trigger up the heat. Stick to the topic and try and explain the other person where he is lacking and how can he up the game. When one tries to act perfect and puts all the blame on the other person then the whole concept of an effective communication loses its significance so you might want to look out for the problems inside you before attacking someone else. [ Read: Abandonment Issues and How it Affects Your Relationship ]
- LIGHTEN UP
Is the conversation taking an uncomfortable turn? Humor is a great way to relieve stress, find a way to lighten the mood by sharing a joke or amusing story. You can always have a peaceful kind of conversation as long as your partner is taking you seriously. This way you not only discuss the problem but also have a nice chit chat.
Nobody is a perfect communicator but you can always work on talking and most importantly listening to your partners and all their ideas and complaints for building a deep and mature relationship with them. Talk more, stress less. Go out for a romantic dinner and cut down the differences because in the end it’s the people who count the most.