Do I Miss My Best Friend in My Life Partner?
We look for a friend in our life partner. We want to be with a person who understands us and respects us for what we are. A relationship can be built and strengthened only with understanding and trust. My life partner is someone who has a heart of gold and is a wonderful human being. But, the connection that one has with one’s best friend is missing between the two of us. Our relationship does not seem to be working and neither of us is to be blamed for that. We are solid, good human beings individually but as a team we just do not seem to work. [Read : 10 Romantic Love Messages To Text Your Partner ]
There are certain qualities that one finds in a best friend. I kept looking for you those qualities in my life partner but failed to come across any such traits in him/her. A best friend is one who accepts for us what we are and does not like to change us. They find some of our qualities endearing and put up with the ones they don’t. They understand all our weird habits and fetishes. They encourage us to do things that we like even those things don’t make a lot of sense a lot of people. Even if the world gangs up against us for something, they will stand by us and support us. Many a times, my partner asks me to behave differently than what I really am. Yes, there are certain friends can alter our personality but a true friend never tries to do that. Why should I behave like someone that I am not? My partner, just like my best friend, should try to turn me into something or someone else. [Read : Best Missing You Quotes To Melt Your Partner’s Heart ]
We often say stupid, irrelevant things but our best friend does not mind that. Likewise, we do not object to their ramblings and laugh over them. My partner often asks me control my tongue and be careful not to say anything stupid while having a conversation. Her concerns are valid and when there are some guests around I weigh my words carefully before speaking. But, when I am with my partner should not I have the right to speak my mind and say what I want to. It could be something stupid but it would, at least, be honest. If I can’t speak out my heart to my partner, then who else would I talk to? Your best friend never makes you feel as if you are piling on them. Even if you visit them three times a day and call them up at 3 o’clock in the morning, they would not mind. That’s the kind of understanding you have with them. My partner gets seriously annoyed if I call them at their workplace. We all lead busy lives but taking up an important call once in a while would do no harm. There have been instances in which I have tried to talk about an issue, that I was going through, at a point of time but they seemed disinterested. Being my partner, I thought I could talk to them, but sidestepped the conversation and brought them out of it. I felt hurt and disappointed. [Read : Know The Best Ways To Keep Your Partner Interested In You ]
A best friend who feels happy when good things happen to you. They do not compete with you and want to grow in succeed in every sphere of life. My partner and I are in the same profession and at times, when I break the news about my professional growth to them, they congratulate me but do not seem very enthusiastic. In fact, I can sense a feeling of insecurity in them. Your partner is supposed to feel elated at your success, right? Unfortunately, I do not see that happening. I get a lot of happiness on seeing my partner achieve something, even if that means going a step forward than me in the race. All of us commit mistakes in life. Some mistakes affect us very deeply. While I do take the responsibility of any mistake committed by me, I expect my partner to help me sail through it and solve the various issues that emerge from it. I have never really felt that my partner was empathetic towards me in any such situation in the past. I did not get any support from them either. The irony was that a lot of people whom I did not know earlier, were willing to support me and help me out but my partner did not seem too concerned. I was always there for my life partner whenever they needed me but when I was going through a rough patch, I did not see them standing beside me. [Read : 10 Things Not To Do With Your Partner ]
A best friend is always truthful and honest with you. They never give you any wrong ideas and encourage you to work on your weaknesses. They know that putting you under any illusion will make things worse for you. Hence, they are blunt and fair with you. Sometimes, my life partner says things to make happy even when they know the truth. Yes, truth can hurt sometimes but facing the truth is better and putting it in a corner for a while and discovering it at a later stage when it could put you into big trouble. There are times when I feel lonely even as my partner sits next to me. The reason being that I cannot relate to them and do not feel like talking to them. I miss my best friend in such moments. Our life partner should be a friend to us first and then fulfill his duties of the relationship.