15 Suggestive Signs of a Controlling Boyfriend
All women dream about their prince charming – handsome, loving, and of course understanding. Well, many of them certainly get their ideal man, but with an additional characteristic they never thought of – control!
Men in general are controlling in a relationship. Read on to find out some early signs of a controlling boyfriend:
- You can’t go out!
Your boyfriend doesn’t like it when you make plans with your friends or when you are out with them. He always wants to be with you because he doesn’t want to miss out on watching you have fun and also thinks he is the only one who can take care of you. Well, it’s great that he is so caring, but you need your space! [ Read: 15 Things to Consider Before Moving in with Your Boyfriend! ]
- I’ll handle the money!
Either he doesn’t let to carry money when you go out or hands over his money to you so that you pay the bills. Either way, he wants to be in control of the money; he wants to know how much you are spending. It’s fine that he pays when you go out, however the fact that needs to know where the money is being spent, is a definite sign of a controlling boyfriend.
- Let me check your phone and emails!
Does your boyfriend go through your phone to check your text messages and call logs and knows your passwords so that he can check your emails? Honey, its in your face that this boy is a control freak! [ Read: 13 Annoying Things Boyfriends Do and How to Avoid Them ]
- You cannot do anything right!
According to your guy, you can never do anything well! He is always putting you down and treating you with disrespect. This sort of behavior is totally uncalled for so stand up for yourself, girl!
- Because I said so!
Before you even ask him, his answer is always a big, fat ‘no!’ Whether you wish to buy a new carpet for the house, go out for your friend’s baby shower, go to watch a romantic movie or throw a birthday party for your friends – you will get a no from him. Many a times, you haven’t even asked for his permission, yet you hear a no- note the sign! [ Read: 13 Secret Signs Which Will Tell You That Your Boyfriend Is Still Not Over His EX! ]
- You are trapped!
You feel like you don’t have a life of your own; it is like all your freedom is lost and you are suffocated! This is simply because your controlling boyfriend is like the dementor from Harry Potter and has sucked out the soul from your life!
- Where is everybody?
You may not realize this in the first few months of your relationship, but all you are doing is spending time with your boyfriend and nobody else. You cannot go for your friend’s birthday parties or simply catch up with a cousin for lunch- all because your boyfriend has a problem with this. So eventually you lose out on all your friends and other relations. [ Read: An Open Letter From Girlfriend To Her Boyfriend ]
- How did you make this decision?
He breaks down if you have made a decision on your own! You are capable of taking the right decisions, yet he wants to have a say in all your actions. It is fine that he is interested in your life, but when he get angry that you’ve taken a decision without his knowledge, you’ll know he is controlling!
- What hobbies?
Have you lost touch with all your interests? Now his interests are you and your interests don’t exist! Since he is so possessive and wants you to be in front of his eyes 24×7, you don’t end up attending your book club sessions, or pursue your dance classes or continue your yoga and meditation. [ Read: Clear Signs That You Need To Leave Your Boyfriend ]
- Here comes the green devil!
Whether you are talking to your neighbour or an old friend- he starts burning with jealousy the second he sees you interacting with the opposite sex! Girls like a little bit of possessiveness, but if he is raging in jealousy, you know he’s the controlling types!
- You always need me!
He moulds you and your relationship in such a way that you are dependent on him. He doesn’t like that you are an independent woman, so he starts doing things for you and assisting you even though you don’t need his support and is always chanting how important he is in your life – all in a hope that someday you become completely dependent on him. [ Read: Simple Expectations of A Girlfriend From Her Boyfriend ]
- It is your fault, not mine!
He blames you for everything that goes wrong! No matter what the situation, your boyfriend tells you that you are the reason for the failure and asks for an apology; moreover, it may be his fault, but he refuses to accept it and just pushes it onto you!
- You are different and I’m different!
His rules don’t apply to yours! So when he’s checking on you, he’s being considerate, but when you call to check on him you are being clingy. Similarly, he’s being cute when he gets possessive, but you are insecure if you get jealous. Controlling boyfriends don’t practice what they preach! [ Read: 7 ways to deal with a possessive boyfriend ]
- Where are you going?
He is always keeping a check on your whereabouts! Not only that, he asks his friends to keep an eye out on you – in short he is stalking you. Be it your daily routine or your social media – this controlling boyfriend knows your every move!
- I don’t know what I want!
This boy has broken your confidence and soon you won’t have any direction in life; you won’t be able to make a simple decision like which dress to pick up, forget picking a college for your masters. [ Read: 13 Reasons Why Nice Guys Finish Last ]
All of us have a certain dominance streak in us and wish to be involved in our partner’s life. Yet, there is a thin line between being involved and being controlling. So when you see these signs of a control freak in him, don’t get sucked into it; but tackle the situation!