14 Ways to Charm Her on The Very First Date!
Everybody wants to make a good impression on the first date. And the chance given to make this happen comes only once. You should not let it go by not taking it seriously. Now, definitely some couples have had terrible first dates but still ended up in being the most perfect couple. But nowadays, people have lost the concept of patience. They are not ready to give it a second chance. This is not fair, but you surely can’t help it.
You need to give it your best shot on the first date. It is obviously not easy to be all comfortable and to make it all up perfectly for the first time you meet somebody who is all new to you. This also creates some pressure even before meeting that ”someone”.
Use these 14 tips to make your date a successful one and winning the second date just so easily.
- Prepare some questions beforehand!
It’s good to prepare some questions beforehand, so that you don’t run out of topics to discuss during the initial stage of the dinner. It’s good to know about each other with the help of a few questions. But, don’t come off as an investigating officer who is trying to know everything. Just ask her what she feels interested to talk about. [ Read: 12 Prince Charming Traits That Make Girls Swoon! ]
- Stay away from your phone!
It has the ability to kill your conversation and her interest in you. Nobody likes it when their date is more interested in their text messages and their Facebook than you. It is one of the mood killers when your phone rings in the middle of a great conversation. Better put it on silent.
Women love it when men make them laugh. They love those people who can even laugh at themselves. Their jokes should not be, in any way, vulgar or cheap if the girl is not comfortable with it. Decently making them laugh can work wonders in the first place.
- Don’t lose control!
Loosening up is good when you are a bit nervous. But, it should be done within some limits. You definitely wouldn’t want your first impression to go sour if you come off as some indecent man in front of her or you probably say something that you regret later. [ Read: Turn On The Charm, To Make Your Valentine Feel Warm ]
- Avoid giving direct answers!
Avoid giving in direct answers which will end in just a ”no” or a ”yes”. Those questions can actually kill a good conversation. Try to keep the conversation flowing and no awkward silence should creep in between.
- Don’t be too open!
It’s good to be open on the first date so that you loosen up a bit. It’s perfect to be honest when your date asks you some questions. But some parts of your life should be kept under wraps for now to be revealed in a span of some other dates in the future.
- Be confident!
You may feel nervous on your first date but don’t let your confidence go for a vacation while you’re out for the date. It’s okay if your heart is racing at some phenomenal speed inside your body, that doesn’t mean you have to do crazy things on the outside. Take a deep breath and be confident! [ Read: 13 Rules To Take An Inch Forward To Being A Proper Gentleman ]
- No hint of awkwardness should arise!
There should be some mutual physical attraction right from the start. If it doesn’t exist, then the relationship may not last long enough. You should take the right time to build that feeling the right way. You should not come off as too strong.
- Don’t be a bore!
Learn to keep asking some question or the other before the conversation starts to go all quiet and awkward. Know about their life, job, family and things which have the ability to run the conversation. [ Read: 12 Best Ways To Avoid The First Impression Disaster! ]
- Avoid even the slightest bit of negativity!
It’s okay if you don’t like a thing which she tends to like. You should not publicize your negativity all over the world, you should rather keep it to yourself. But, if you go all the way just to prove how right you are and how wrong she is, it will definitely take your date in the opposite direction.
- Be real!
If you pretend to be what you’re not, then you’ll definitely be in trouble in the future. Just be calm and be yourself. Try to see which kind of girl likes the real you and would like to proceed with that idea. [ Read: 10 Relationship Deal Breakers To Watch Out For! ]
- Decide the place very carefully!
The setting of the first date should be decided very carefully. A very quiet and secluded place won’t work, neither will a noisy, overcrowded place. The place should be a mix of both.
- Involve her in your conversation!
Don’t form a conversation to which she can’t contribute even a bit. Try to have a conversation where she could also put in her opinions and thoughts and get involved in the talk. Both the people should not overdo the talking. Nobody likes to just listen or speak. It should a mutual thing. [ Read: Different Types Of Love Everyone Experience in Life ]
- Hug in the end!
If you have the slightest feeling that the night went fine for you two, then to make the night a success, a warm hug or a kiss would do just fine. But, be sure that her consent is there! Don’t just jump in.
Charming a girl on the first date should not be a tough task, just make sure you know these tips!