10 Effective Ways to Stop Being So Needy and Insecure
To sustain a relationship for a long time, both the individuals should be secure and confident about it. You need to trust your partner implicitly and believe in the fact that they love you. But, no matter how hard we try, insecurities and doubts are bound to seep in. You need to learn to keep those insecurities at bay and not let your relationship with your part to suffer because of it.
Here are 10 Effective Ways to Stop Being So Needy and Insecure:
- Stop being jealous
Your partner might be friends with people from the opposite sex. Your partner spends time with them and they are close to him/her. As long as your partner keeps you in loop about all his friends and is comfortable discussing about them, you have no reason to get worried about. If something fishy would have been going on between your partner and one of their friends, they would have not introduced him/her to you. If your partner talks about his friends (from the opposite sex) openly, then he has absolutely nothing to hide. Do not get jealous if he chooses to spend some time with them. [ Read: 7 Little Ways to Stop Being So Jealous In a Relationship ]
- Do not ask for their time
If your partner really loves you, then they will definitely make some time for you. No matter how busy they are, they will always manage to steal some time off their busy schedule. You should be happy with the amount of time that your partner spares for you and should not ask coax him in to spending more time with you. Even though are a very important figure in his life, he needs to spend some time with his friends and family and you must respect that.
- Maintain your dignity
If you call your partner or text him all the time, it will make your partner feel that you are a bit insecure. Once this fact comes out, they would find it difficult to respect you as much they did earlier. There is a certain level of dignity one has to maintain to command respect from others. If you start acting like this, your partner would get irritated and would try to avoid you. [ Read: 17 Signs of a Jealous & Possessive Boyfriend ]
- Make plans
Ask your partner as to when he is free from work. Without disrupting their schedule make some plans for you to get together. Plan a movie outing, a weekend getaway or anything that would bring you both closer. You must carefully plan it according to your partner’s convenience so that it does not eat in to his professional work.
- Give some space
You must respect each other’s space. Being in a relationship with each other does not give you the right to snatch away each other’s space. Do not impose your decisions on them. If your partner wants to go on an outing with his family, which does not includes you, do not get disappointed. You are an important part of his life but that does not mean you will be a part of all his activities. [ Read: 6 Reasons why women get more jealous than men ]
- Engage yourself
Do not let your relationship take away some valuable time that you could use for yourself. Try to always keep yourself engaged in something or the other. Indulge yourself in a hobby in your spare time or watch your favourite television show. Do something that you have always wanted to do or have been doing for some time. Do not put a full stop on your dreams and pursue your passion. Your relationship should not act as a burden on you.
- Do not pile on
It is okay to be dependent on your partner for a few things but do not look out for them at every single thing. If you start getting completely dependent on your partner, they will start thinking of you as a burden and would try to move away from you. Your partner is, in a way, your responsibility but once they start acting like a burden, it signals the end of the relationship. [ Read: 10 Brilliant Tips for Having a Casual Relationship ]
- Do not ask too many questions
If you are insecure about your relationship, you feel the urge to ask a lot of questions to your partner. You want to know about their whereabouts, why did they come late, why they didn’t pick up the call, etc. This completely gives away the fact that you are an insecure person. Refrain from asking questions to your partner that would make them uncomfortable.
- Respect their freedom
Every person is entitled to his individual freedom and nobody, including their partner, has a right to take it away from them. Instead of forcing things on them, encourage your partner to take their own decisions and grow as an individual. If you respect their freedom, they will respect yours. [ Read: 30 Sweetest Things to Do with Your Girlfriend ]
- Accept them
The most important thing that would help you stop being insecure is accepting your partner the way they are. Every person has his own limitations and quirks. If you have get in to a relationship with them after knowing them well, then you must accept them now sans any complaints.
Insecurity marks the end of a relationship. You should not only be secure about your relationship but also have faith in your partner and your own self. Relationships are difficult to handle and sustain for long. Bering a secure and understanding person can help you keep them going for a long time.